Dear Diary

Well, well, well...Since my last post yonks has happened. There's been a few hurricanes ripping up New York, Kim Kardashian's started dating Kayne West and a guy with the bossest name ever! jumped into Earth from outer space (or close enough). This world just doesn't seem to slow down! In amongst that all I've completed my first year as a uni student and am stoked that its finally summer!!!

 

Rather than write some deep and meaning post, I figured, why not step back and have a lil laugh at the observations I have made this year, in what I like to call "Dear... Much love."

Dear fashion bloggers, fashionistas or anyone in the general public,

I apologise for committing such a horrible crime, on several occasions this year.
Several times I accidentally left my normal shoes at home and had to wear my running shoes with jeans.
And to top it off I forgot all my makeup.
So general public if you ever saw me walking around I was not homeless. But I thank you kindly for the free food.

 

Much love,
An appreciative member of society.

 

 

Dear real humour,

I wish you and I had a better relationship. You only wanna hang out whenever overtired is around. Am I not good enough for you?

Much love,
Your other half,
Dry humour.

 

 

Dear trick or treaters,
 

Please come by our house. Josh and I have homemade lollies aka. tiny stones wrapped in favourites wrappers. All the best trick or treating.

 

Much love,

Anonymous.

 

 

Dear New york journalists,

You tell people to evacuate a massive Hurricane Sandy is coming. So what do you do? Run right out into the hurricane to conduct the news.

I now understand why journalism has such high death rates. Silly Billys.

 

Much love,

A concerned citizen.

 

 

Dear university confession pages,

 

Thank you so much. You have taught me a lot of things this year, like:

 

1. People love to confess things.

2. The truth always seems to come out. 

3. And I would love to be the person who does the anonymous admin. Imagine knowing exactly who 'anonymous' is. 

 

Much love,

Gossip wannabe xo

(Sorry couldn't add another 'xo' due to copyright laws...in a perfect world their would be two o's and x's)

 

Pasion, Passione, Leidenschaft, Passion.

Right now I am sitting in my bedroom listening as my brother bleats out the pounding lyrics of some random song, and even thought the old pitch can be a bit off at times I can't help but admire his passion and dedication.

Its a random thought but lately I cease to be amazed by this idea of passion, at the end of the day without it, little would get done in our world. I mean take a look at Martin Luther King, that's pretty gutsy to get up infront of all those people and speak aloud your thoughts. Martin Luther King had passion. Passion is what drove him, none could deny he was passionate about his cause especially after watching his 'I have a dream' speech. Passion is what allows ordinary people to do extraordinary things, take one look at people like Winston Churchill, Mother Teresa, Nelson Mandela, their passions benefitted many, which leads onto the main thought I have been having lately.

I have been really challenged about this idea of world changers, people who use there talents and gifts to help influence the 'world' in which they live in. This idea of 'world' can be anything from family, friends, and can extend wider, on a global scale. But what makes a world changer: its their passion and drive for something. I reckon each person on this planet is a 'world changer' in their own right, even the people who society rejects: homeless people, prostitutes, drug users and many more. Whats cool is the fact that everyone is able to influence someone, yousee if someone has walked the path before they will be more relatable to someone currently walking it. For example I've never tried drugs so my understanding and relatablty to someone who does or is will not be as helpful as someone who has been through that personally.

I guess at the end of the day the thought I had was, every person on this planet has a way they can help change and inspire the 'world' the people the places they go. Its like that common cliches 'You will never know how many people you will influence in your lifetime,' which is so true because unless someone tells us straight the face we are unaware of what we mean to someone.

Work without passion is tiresome and boring, however if passion is added to the mix it becomes a challenge (not a threatening challenge, but a strenghening/defining challenge),  rather than feel like an obligated chore.
Also I guess the main questions I've been going over is things like:
 What am I passionate about?
 How can use that passion to help others?
 What do I want to see come out of that/ What do I see being the final result of putting those plans into actions?

 PS: DREAM BIG! Because the only thing stopping you from your dreams is yourself.

Check out these quotes if your in need of a lil inspiration http://www.inspirational-quotes.info/

When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us.

- Alexander Graham Bell

 

 

 

 

 

 

"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't." - Erica Jong

"In the end, it's not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away"

-shing xiong

 

 

 

Western Worlds, Different Worlds

Hola amigos!
Hope all in well, my family and I are over here in America at the moment. On the first day we flew into LA arriving at 6, from there we went and hired a car, and drive around Hollywood, unfortunately that day is a bit of a haze as the good ol jetlag started kicking in, all in all we had a 43hr day! Staying at the Castle Inn and suites in Anaheim, which was alright not amazing but did the job by giving a bed to sleep on.

Following that we went to Disneys California Theme Park (which is directly opposite) where there are some epic rides, my favourites being The Hollywood Tower Hotel and California Screamin, two epic rides which get the ol' blood pumping. It was so good the day after we went to Disneyland for a little bit and then decided to go back to California Theme land park where we got to watch this amazing light and water show (videos up soon) with a disney theme to it, World of Colour :O! Hehe

Because we aren't staying anywhere semi-permanantly here, we have been eating out every night and flip the servings are insane!! One meal is the size of at least 2 big dinner plates (in NZ) put together! It is insane! Its no surprise that people are so big over here, in order to avoided further weight gain on my behalf I have stuck to kids meals and going to our hotels local gym (starting tomorrow when we aren't doing any walking.)

Another thing I am so surprised at is how much MAKEUP the women over here wear, it is crazy, what we would often consider as a cakefaced girl in NZ, is the normal everyday American girl. So rarely have I seen a girl without make-up, coming from the girl who only ever wears mascara and sometimes eyeliner. Its crazy!

Another thing which I think has really challenged me personally is the large amounts of poor and homeless people on the streets, especially around Hollywood, Santa Monica and Venice Beach, for many of you when you think of these places the idea of a big, beautiful, glamourous place comes to mind, reality is far from that. For example: Venice Beach is basically weed central, with every 3rd shop selling cannabis for *cough medical purposes.* Hollywood has so many homeless people, it breaks my heart! As we have driven by we have seen so many people searching through the trash, or lying down on the side of the road. It is so hard for me to watch, I wish their was something I could do to help, the only problem is you can't just give them money because they don't know how to use it properly or to invest it wisely. Whenever I see someone I do think about why and what made them homeless in the first place.

Which brings me to today, we hit up Seaworld which was yet another amazing day, followed by me sitting here at my hotel writing about the incredible things so far. My motto over these holidays has been simple: "Carpe Diem- Sieze the day" live and enjoy moment, because its these amazing moments which make up lifes incredible journey!

Relationships Part 2

As I pointed out in my previous post about what the 3 things are which can really help make a good relationship Raya, Ahava and Dode. i decided this time to take a lok at how we can maintain a healthy relationship.

Well the answer is simple, its the putting it into action which is diffucult.

BOUNDARIES.

Boundaries-are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify for him- or herself what are reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave around him or her and how he or she will respond when someone steps outside those limits. ( Wikipedia definition)

Boundaries are important parts of any relationship you form with anyone, (ie: your boss, their are boundaries in place of how you should act around him, and if you cross those boundaries their are consequences.) We all make boundaries and its tends to be a subconcious thing we do.

Its interesting isn't it, how easily in a dating relationship we become more 'loose' with our boundaries and can easily be pushed beyond even how far we would go with friends, whether its being mentally,emotionally, sexually or spiritually. Interesting.

For many of you, you may be reading this and thinking well I don't need boundaries I have good relationships. So I have written up some questions below for you to ponder.

So you've dated before, thats cool.

How many people have you dated before?
How has that ended?
What has this person (who your dating) done to earn your trust?
What will be your regrets if you breakup?

I probably should clarify that I'm not trying to make you annoyed or frustrated but I just want to get you thinking about these things because they are some wise things you should be thinking about in a relationship.

So what do boundaries define and protect?

• your love: your deepest capactity and connect
• your emotions: your need to own your feelings and not becontrolled by others feelings
• your values ( very important one!): your need to have your life reflect what you care about most deeply
• your behaviours: your control over how you act in your relationship
• your attitudes: your stances and opinions about yourself and your date

Just a reminder about what I mentioned in my earlier post, the only way for a dating relationship ends is:

Marriage
Or
Breakup


Something I have noticed expecially in teenage relationships is this NAIVENESS in dating, where they think its just gonna end happily ever after. So if your someone who isn't really looking at a serious or potential husband/wife relationship and you don't have any boundaries then be prepared for some pretty horrible heart break if it ends badly.
 Why give someone so much of your love when you know how its gonna end. Harsh I know but a reality you need to think about.

Relationships are kinda like a football game.

Pre-game your team is excited, uncertain of what the future holds, ready to give it all. Super psyched up!Sometimes the opposition are alot better than what you expected, by half time the coach is hounding you about what you needed to have improved on. And you try and improve this in the second half. Sometimes it works and you win and sometimes it doesn't.

We come into relationships excited because we think about this fairytale ending, and unfortuantaely sometimes this doesn't get to happen.

I hope that this has given you something to just have a little ponder about, and I hope I haven't offended to many people with my brutal honesty.

Take care :)

Relationships: Part 1

Relationships.

What on earth are the ways you can enjoy a healthy, fun and fulfilling relationship.

In this post I am just sorta covering boyfrind/girlfriend/daitng kinda relationships in contrast to like family relationships ore friend relaiotnships. Just thought I'd clear that up first :)

I found this quite interesting,  but in the Hebrew language there are 3 words which are used to describe our 1 word Love. For many of you who know the English language we tend to chuck this word love around alot:
"I love you"
"I love chocolate"
"I looooooooooooveeeeee those shoes." You get where I'm going with this.

Now see in the Hebrew language love is broken up into three different words and this makes it ten times easier to show how much you LOVE something becuase it is more specific. These three words are:

1. Raya
2. Ahava
3. Dod

They each describe different stages/elements of a relationship.

Raya is a close friendship, compainionship with someone of the opposite gender. (This is different from just a good guy/girl friend relationship but it means you have some form of attraction towards one another.) In this you learn about the other person, this is the time when you are getting to know about the person, by hanging out going on dates. At this stage this relationship isn't the most importnat one you should be investing your time in but moreso in your friends and family because you may find you have numerous 'Raya' relationships before you find someone who wants to take it to Ahava.    
   Dating would come under this.  

Ahava literally means deep affection, such desire to be with the other person it makes your heart break. Ahava is alot more stronger than Raya because it is at a stage were it is more profound than just your typical romantic goody good feeling. Ahava is so strong you feel you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. Ahava is comitment.
   Marriage would come under this.

Now Dod. Dod is the passionate, the sexual/physical side of the relationship. (Not gonna lie but if you really wanna know what this should 'Dod' should be like check out Song of Songs, only 8 chapters and its quite explicit and beautifully written.)
  This is where sex fits in.

Isn't it interesting how one word can become so specific!

I find this such an eye opener everytime! Just backing up what I said in one of my last posts about just having a mindset of  'the here and now.' You see if we live with this mindset, it can actually be quite destructive to our relationships because you think to only please here and now, and therefore doing things which only feel good here and now.

The best relaitonships which last start with:

Raya and this develops, whether is 6 months to 10yrs+. (Raya is such a short time span when you think about the fact you if you going tovspend the rest of your life with this person.)

Then comes Ahava

and finally Dod is there to continue that Ahava and  Raya, and to keep those flames going! Believe it or not sex was designed for a purpose.

By taking out one of these elements of the relationship you are actually making your relaitonship weaker and not allowing them too withstand time.
Tip:
Invest and Nurture those relationships (aswell as keeping your relationships with friends and family up too scratch too.)


In some ways relationships are kinda like exams, at first you have to study and learn for the test, and then you sit the test, and then later you see the results of all your hard work.


Check out wicked book Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers, it portrays what love really should look, be and feel like.
http://www.amazon.com/Redeeming-Love-Francine-Rivers/dp/1576738167


Hope this gotten some of you thinking about where you are in your relationships.
Next time Part 2 of Relationships :)
Take care!